Body Shaming

I am unsure if I am extra sensitive towards this topic having gone through it myself but I cannot help but feel a sense of intense rage each time someone dismisses a person just because they are "fat". Fatty, moti, haathi, chubby, hippo words that we use as a joke to name other people can often scar them for life and we don't even realize that. Forget fat, people often assume that telling someone they have lost weight is a compliment! 

Lets get some basics right. Someone else's body, is none of your business. Whether they have gained weight, lost weight or remained the same is none of your business. You have lost weight is not a compliment. If you want to compliment someone talk to them about their talents, achievements, compliment them as a whole person and not based on their body because again, their physical up keep is NONE of your business

It annoys me to see mothers of brides asking their daughters to go on a diet just before their wedding because they have to look their best. Firstly, why does only the bride have to look her best whereas the groom can come to the same wedding with a beer belly and all we will say that "khaate peete ghar ka hai". Secondly, for those wedding albums which you will never see post your wedding was that torture really necessary? I have seen brides faint at the alter because they haven't eaten for days before their big day just to fit into their clothes. If you really want to see a bride happy make sure she is marrying for the right reasons and then watch her glow

Is that how shallow we have become as a society? Especially in India.  Look I am not against fitness. I believe that it is very important for a person to be fit, healthy and look after themselves. All I am against is for us as strangers to take onus for this task. When I went on a super unhealthy diet and completely lost sight of my health in 2019 my friends immediately called me on it but in private. They did not tarnish my entire image in public and with correct measures I was able to bounce back. Of course like most of us I am still a work in progress 

I have seen girls of all ages, sizes, marital statuses over the past 37 years in life. Not all of them are strong enough to fight these insecurities they have thanks to all these words used to call them out so casually. Even the strongest and hottest of women are constantly staring at their (invisible) cellulite in the mirror in their darkest of times. Sometimes, losing weight can be a sign of depression, anxiety or even anorexia and you haven't the slightest clue because you are probably judging that poor girl based on her so called glamorous life on social media (again a farce)

All I am saying is that a little sensitivity goes a long way. Think before you speak. Think before you think you are complimenting someone and judge people less. You have no idea how one tiny word you speak can ruin someone's image of themselves for life