Something I wrote in March 2008
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Yes, it’s been pretty long since I’ve been in hibernation. Well I’m back with a bang, actually, I was always around but there was nothing worthwhile happening to type about. Life has been pretty much the same old routine, get up-go to work-come home types.
Anyway so last Saturday I was at a friend’s house. A few of us just stayed there watching a movie, chatting, chilling with a couple of beers. Over a period of time a friend let’s call her X slowly begins to get high. Now knowing X for donkey years I know that each time she’s high she gets emotional and cranky and I am generally the target I decide it’s time for me to head back and hit the sack, As I put down the bowl of popcorn and got up from that comfy bean bag where I had plopped myself all night, I hear her call my name.
Oh hell! I think. “Run Pooja Run” speaks my mind, but I just stood there and she started off.
Surprisingly this time it was not me who was the target but a couple of us clubbed together. X went on about she was from a lower middle class family and how her values are what values are, and how lower middle class people truly understand the value of money cause they strive and work hard to earn it and how we were a bunch of spoilt brats who have gotten everything easy in life and blah blah!.
I listened to all she had to say and couldn’t bother to argue then, but X, here’s my point of view and the reasons why I do not agree with you.
Sure I have had things slightly easier than you, but that definitely does not mean I don’t respect the fact that I have. I may not have traveled by bus (like you pointed out) but once both of reach our office desks we work equally hard to get that promotion which you eventually got. I don’t believe in a class of society, you were the one who has always distinguished between different strata’s in our so called society.
Needless to say if I did receive a few more man made material goodies than you
a) I am not going to feel guilty about the fact that I did and nor am I going to feel bad about having being happy while receiving them.
b) They say nothing about the values I have been brought up with.
I think you have prioritized wrong. Fortunately for me I have brought up with the most wonderful parents who have worked very hard in their life to give me what I have and brought me up with a solid set of values that makes me what I am today. My mother sacrificed her career to bring me up, teaching me how to respect what I have today cause I may not have it tomorrow and I know that I can be happy even otherwise because its not the things that matter to me, its the people. You are amazing for all you've achieved in your life, but we are trying too, working as hard as you, respecting and thanking for all what we have and striving as hard to reach our goals. Hey! we are amazing too.
Although I do need to cut you some slack! After all you were riding high! ;-)
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On a funnier note I must describe this really funny incident that happened on one of my drunken friends escapades. I don't have any of my personal experiences to share as I have never gotten drunk. Yawn! Boring! I know, but I'm really not comfortable and hardly allow myself to let go and lose control of myself. Well let’s see. It's not like you can ever say never.
Anyway so this was many years ago, we had just passed out of std10 and were into what you call "junior college" in Bombay. 31 December was fast approaching and this would be our 1st New Year's eve party where we could go without our parents and we were really kicked about it. By we I mean 6 of us, best friends in college. So about a month before there we were picking up our fancies, choosing our dates, you know all that stuff what silly youngsters who at that point think they are being extremely cool do.
So finally the day arrived 31st night. All 12 of us, with drivers in tow. We weren't eligible to drive ourselves then silly! we were hardly 16-17 years old. We had really researched and found out that the most happening party was at the Leela hotel. As I am sure you'd identify, the desperation to be at the "coolest" party was always there. I remember our fathers getting a cardiac arrest when they heard the prices of the passes, but what are moms for :-)
Anyway so we arrive at this large party, at about 11:45pm because we've been stuck in a traffic jam for like 2 and a half hours and were pretty frustrated. We hit the dance floor and by the time it was 12:00, wished each other, we look around and the 6 boys who came with us, were missing.
Where were they? We went on a frantic search for them cause apparently they were our so called escorts (although we had our own drivers luckily). Suddenly we look on the floor and call 6 of them lay drunk. Hehe well they were 16 too you know, and the charm of getting wasted and the whole alcohol high was something that gave them a kick at that point.
We were sooo pissedd off. All that dressing up to find who you've come with on the floor! Besides in these popular parties, every second person you bump into, happens to know you and they were like hey have you girls come alone?
We couldn’t bear the embarrassment and in the meanwhile Y who was with us also suddenly decides to get drunk and starts throwing up. We were so naive we didn’t know what to do and started walking her towards the car.
Suddenly these 2 guys walk upto us and offer to help Y by getting her some lemon. Now I feel foolish for letting them but then we didn’t have a choice. They were so helpful, they sorted Y out after like 2-3 hours of hanging in the parking lot at the Leela. Their friends joined us and it was a party of its own kind, only in a pool of puke.
After all that we went to R's house pooped with all that cleaning, dropped Y home before that, luckily her mom didn’t notice she was drunk at all, thanks to those guys who took care of her for us.
So that New Year was basically spent wiping puke, meeting random men (who today I can call friends after 7- 8 whole years), getting their car dirty and ruining their New Year mind you, cause all they came out for was a smoke and landed in this mess, eating bread and sarson ka saag in R's house and having our other friends looking for us and making announcements on the mic in the hotel. I can’t even begin to describe that eventful night, but all in all it was a fantastic beginning to a new year. I miss those Good old days
Friday, August 7, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
To the man who gave me the best gift in the world..My mother
Dear Nana,
It has been 3 years since you left us. I'm sure you're as rocking in heaven as you were here with all of us and your friends there enjoy your company as much as we did. We really miss you. Especially Nani. As you must be aware, she lives with us now, in Bombay and we have made every attempt to maker her comfortable and a part of our everyday life. It feels great to have the company of a grandparent all the time, as I've never experienced it before. She is happy but misses you dearly.
Mom- I think the person you loved the most (even more than me, I remember hating that part :)) gets so emotional every single time your name comes up..still.
I still have those birthday cards and letter's you sent me so religiously every year. You were so proud of snail mail (see- mail as you liked to call it) inspite of this computer generation. I am so sorry for not replying to all those letters and just reciprocating to them by a mere phone call.
Thanks for calling to check each week if we were ok. Thanks for giving me mom. She is just a mirror image of what you were. Which is why sometimes I still hardly feel that you're not around.
Guess what?? I've finally started eating fruits! Yeh, can you believe that? Especially papaya's. I know you love them :)
I take nani to Sun n Sand often for a meal at the Sunset Room.I'm sure nani reminisces the awesome times she spent with you there.They have a new menu now, although the sweet corn chicken soup and caramel custard both of us swear by still exists.
I haven't been to Lko after you left. I feel sick for not coming on 15th August 2006, the day you left us, but I was in a helpless situation. Dad and mom wanted to keep me back to shield me away from the pain. Miraculously I had the best support system in Bombay, even though I was all alone. I'm sure you arranged that.
I still remember the days you encouraged mom to take family vacations away, instead of coming to Lko during all my summer holidays. I really appreciated that sacrifice on your behalf. That's also how I took a passion to traveling. Thanks for encouraging my hobby.
You were so proud of my achievements. Graduation, internships, elocution's no matter how small. You cherished and stored away every little thing I gave you...I did too.
I miss the house in Lko. I felt like a princess in a palace each time I was there. You know I have a job now! I travel a lot and really miss telling you stories about my presentations, marketing strategies, budgets, fam trips cause I know you'd really want to hear them...every little detail.
Dad has finally let go of my hand. I am comparatively more independent. Thanks for pushing him to send me to Jai Hind college. I remember him having reservations as it was slightly far away from home. The USA thing didn't work out..but that's ok I guess.
I wish I could undo life and bring you back to us but you know that cannot happen. I'll be at the Golden Temple,Amritsar this year on August 15th, praying for you..for all of us and will need your blessings to keep us happy.
Your dream to give me the car of my choice the day I got married remained unfulfilled..you left me before the day arrived.Anyway material goodies are not important.. you know that I really love you and that you will stay in my heart forever..
Lots and lots of love.jpg)
Chunnu
It has been 3 years since you left us. I'm sure you're as rocking in heaven as you were here with all of us and your friends there enjoy your company as much as we did. We really miss you. Especially Nani. As you must be aware, she lives with us now, in Bombay and we have made every attempt to maker her comfortable and a part of our everyday life. It feels great to have the company of a grandparent all the time, as I've never experienced it before. She is happy but misses you dearly.
Mom- I think the person you loved the most (even more than me, I remember hating that part :)) gets so emotional every single time your name comes up..still.
I still have those birthday cards and letter's you sent me so religiously every year. You were so proud of snail mail (see- mail as you liked to call it) inspite of this computer generation. I am so sorry for not replying to all those letters and just reciprocating to them by a mere phone call.
Thanks for calling to check each week if we were ok. Thanks for giving me mom. She is just a mirror image of what you were. Which is why sometimes I still hardly feel that you're not around.
Guess what?? I've finally started eating fruits! Yeh, can you believe that? Especially papaya's. I know you love them :)
I take nani to Sun n Sand often for a meal at the Sunset Room.I'm sure nani reminisces the awesome times she spent with you there.They have a new menu now, although the sweet corn chicken soup and caramel custard both of us swear by still exists.
I haven't been to Lko after you left. I feel sick for not coming on 15th August 2006, the day you left us, but I was in a helpless situation. Dad and mom wanted to keep me back to shield me away from the pain. Miraculously I had the best support system in Bombay, even though I was all alone. I'm sure you arranged that.
I still remember the days you encouraged mom to take family vacations away, instead of coming to Lko during all my summer holidays. I really appreciated that sacrifice on your behalf. That's also how I took a passion to traveling. Thanks for encouraging my hobby.
You were so proud of my achievements. Graduation, internships, elocution's no matter how small. You cherished and stored away every little thing I gave you...I did too.
I miss the house in Lko. I felt like a princess in a palace each time I was there. You know I have a job now! I travel a lot and really miss telling you stories about my presentations, marketing strategies, budgets, fam trips cause I know you'd really want to hear them...every little detail.
Dad has finally let go of my hand. I am comparatively more independent. Thanks for pushing him to send me to Jai Hind college. I remember him having reservations as it was slightly far away from home. The USA thing didn't work out..but that's ok I guess.
I wish I could undo life and bring you back to us but you know that cannot happen. I'll be at the Golden Temple,Amritsar this year on August 15th, praying for you..for all of us and will need your blessings to keep us happy.
Your dream to give me the car of my choice the day I got married remained unfulfilled..you left me before the day arrived.Anyway material goodies are not important.. you know that I really love you and that you will stay in my heart forever..
Lots and lots of love
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Chunnu
Monday, July 27, 2009
Happy Birthday Bloggie
It's been so long since I've written something. I was suffering from one of those syndromes where you want to be as far as you can from the computer. Yeah happens to me each time I think I'm getting addicted. To anything! Even people! :-O
So anyway, moving on to happier things, this month marked a whole year where I have blogged religiously (Well compared to my previous standards) and most importantly haven't deleted my blog!!
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You've been so good to me all through the year. Even at times when I felt most alone, frustrated and angry I felt I could share anything with you and at the same time never worried that a million people could read what I have to say.
I've ranted,rambled for hours and you've been so patient with me.After all, who other than you knows me as well?
I hope we share many such more honest memories through the years to come and I hope you stay with me forever!!
I'm sorry I couldn't spend 11th July (your birthday) with you, but...
Happy Belated Birthday Bloggie
I can really say I love you and actually mean it ;)
So anyway, moving on to happier things, this month marked a whole year where I have blogged religiously (Well compared to my previous standards) and most importantly haven't deleted my blog!!
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| Sesame Street - Ha... |
You've been so good to me all through the year. Even at times when I felt most alone, frustrated and angry I felt I could share anything with you and at the same time never worried that a million people could read what I have to say.
I've ranted,rambled for hours and you've been so patient with me.After all, who other than you knows me as well?
I hope we share many such more honest memories through the years to come and I hope you stay with me forever!!
I'm sorry I couldn't spend 11th July (your birthday) with you, but...
Happy Belated Birthday Bloggie
I can really say I love you and actually mean it ;)
Monday, June 22, 2009
No name, until I think of one. Suggestions welcome
There are so many things I want to say,
So many things I want to do,
But life seems so empty,
After I left the sight of you.
I miss those long walks together,
Hearing the pitter patter of the rain.
The weather, the trees and the breeze,
Life is somehow just not the same.
Come back to me as I wait for you,
Days, months, years have flown past.
There’s a lot I need to reminisce with you
About time, our time that passed us by.
Friday, June 5, 2009
My one year job-versary
Had to make a note of it. I completed a whole year working where I am today. Not that this is my first job, but yes it is the first job where I do real work. If I reflect on the past year gone by its been regular with its share of ups, downs, boss tantrums, incentives, lots of travel, colleagues- good, bad and insignificant. But overall it's been a good experience if I look at it from a broad perspective.
I don't like sharing about my work too much so I'll keep this short.
Here's to me and my one year job-versary
I don't like sharing about my work too much so I'll keep this short.
Here's to me and my one year job-versary
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
If I make it here...I'll make it anywhere..It's up to you
I know that my posts of late must have already convinced you that I am just a confused individual who has no clue where she is headed in life. Haha! well that may be my current state of mind but mind you I've not always been this confused person.
I have an independent mind which is hardly ever influenced by the decision of others. My family who I love dearly have always respected and encouraged me to think on my own as an individual. Like every other human I have plans. I think about stuff. Most of the time, things don't go as planned, but hey! that doesn't stop me from thinking, dreaming and planning and that shouldn't stop you either!
Travel is a passion. I'm obsessed with traveling to new places. Before I began my job which allowed me to travel so frequently, I traveled quite a bit but only with family. I have always craved to just go for one nice big crazy holiday with my friends but that has never materialized mostly for two reasons. When they were ready a few years ago to take this plunge, I wasn't (you know the daddy's little girl, you're too young) bit..and now when I am ready finally..they have other priorities (personal commitments, professional and sometimes even both). I hope it happens soon or I'll have to start looking out for travel buddies now :)
Coming back to planning, let me share with you some personal stuff I have planned for the longest time. It's funny and weird and you probably think I'm crazy but I figure if I write it down maybe I'll reminisce about this in my old age. (If I don't end up deleting my blog like I usually do ie)
Ok lets see, some past planning included me wanting to study journalism forever. I still remember making up my mind about this in class 5 and sticking to it until post graduation. It's a different issue that once I started working as a journalist there was an immediate job change:). As mentioned plan, but don't be sure your plans will work as you want them to.
I'm not sure if I should mention the next one. Hmm ok since I'm being honest, I've already picked the names of my children, if I have any, especially my son. Let me tell you the story behind these names. When I was very very little Yash Chopra had released a movie for television. Yeah it was never screened in the cinemas it was meant to be tele-film and the hero of that film was named Kabir. Obviously I had the hots for Mr Kabir and then and there made up my mind to name my son (if I have one) Kabir. By the way this Kabir ultimately went out to be Mr Aashish Chowdry (He does a few films now, and I DO NOT find him hot now...I was a kid then).Everyone I know detest my decision but I'm pretty adamant on this one, lets see what happens. My daughter (again if I have one..gosh do I have to keep specifying that time and again) will be named Sara, for the Sara I know is the baby I love the most.
Can't believe I just shared the above.
Ok next personal planning. I've picked Australia and New Zealand as my honeymoon destination, single handedly, if I do decide to get married :-P. (again since forever)
I've always wanted to live in London
Sssshsh..I need to stop typing!! Ok no more personal stuff
Talking of destinations, I am obessessive about visiting America especially New York. I have been to a lot of places around the world but no destination/country has intrigued my interest as much as America. I've made multiple attempts to visit the destination but somehow things have never worked out, latest reason being the lack of company to go. It seems magicial, vast, fast paced(just as I like it) and I really really want to go to America this year. I hope things work in my favour. I know I sound like those gujju aunties, I know America with its flaws, minus points, problems too but I just want to visit.
New York I assume is a lot like Bombay, Fast paced, vibrant, never sleep sort of a city. In the words of Frank Sinatra.. If I make it there, I'll make it anywhere, It's up to you..New York, New York.
Lets see where life takes me and if my dreams materialize. I hope you'll keep coming back until then...
I have an independent mind which is hardly ever influenced by the decision of others. My family who I love dearly have always respected and encouraged me to think on my own as an individual. Like every other human I have plans. I think about stuff. Most of the time, things don't go as planned, but hey! that doesn't stop me from thinking, dreaming and planning and that shouldn't stop you either!
Travel is a passion. I'm obsessed with traveling to new places. Before I began my job which allowed me to travel so frequently, I traveled quite a bit but only with family. I have always craved to just go for one nice big crazy holiday with my friends but that has never materialized mostly for two reasons. When they were ready a few years ago to take this plunge, I wasn't (you know the daddy's little girl, you're too young) bit..and now when I am ready finally..they have other priorities (personal commitments, professional and sometimes even both). I hope it happens soon or I'll have to start looking out for travel buddies now :)
Coming back to planning, let me share with you some personal stuff I have planned for the longest time. It's funny and weird and you probably think I'm crazy but I figure if I write it down maybe I'll reminisce about this in my old age. (If I don't end up deleting my blog like I usually do ie)
Ok lets see, some past planning included me wanting to study journalism forever. I still remember making up my mind about this in class 5 and sticking to it until post graduation. It's a different issue that once I started working as a journalist there was an immediate job change:). As mentioned plan, but don't be sure your plans will work as you want them to.
I'm not sure if I should mention the next one. Hmm ok since I'm being honest, I've already picked the names of my children, if I have any, especially my son. Let me tell you the story behind these names. When I was very very little Yash Chopra had released a movie for television. Yeah it was never screened in the cinemas it was meant to be tele-film and the hero of that film was named Kabir. Obviously I had the hots for Mr Kabir and then and there made up my mind to name my son (if I have one) Kabir. By the way this Kabir ultimately went out to be Mr Aashish Chowdry (He does a few films now, and I DO NOT find him hot now...I was a kid then).Everyone I know detest my decision but I'm pretty adamant on this one, lets see what happens. My daughter (again if I have one..gosh do I have to keep specifying that time and again) will be named Sara, for the Sara I know is the baby I love the most.
Can't believe I just shared the above.
Ok next personal planning. I've picked Australia and New Zealand as my honeymoon destination, single handedly, if I do decide to get married :-P. (again since forever)
I've always wanted to live in London
Sssshsh..I need to stop typing!! Ok no more personal stuff
Talking of destinations, I am obessessive about visiting America especially New York. I have been to a lot of places around the world but no destination/country has intrigued my interest as much as America. I've made multiple attempts to visit the destination but somehow things have never worked out, latest reason being the lack of company to go. It seems magicial, vast, fast paced(just as I like it) and I really really want to go to America this year. I hope things work in my favour. I know I sound like those gujju aunties, I know America with its flaws, minus points, problems too but I just want to visit.
New York I assume is a lot like Bombay, Fast paced, vibrant, never sleep sort of a city. In the words of Frank Sinatra.. If I make it there, I'll make it anywhere, It's up to you..New York, New York.
Lets see where life takes me and if my dreams materialize. I hope you'll keep coming back until then...
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